Seriously, Lighten Up!

The psychology of anger is that you wanted something, and somebody prevented you from getting it. Somebody came as a block, as an obstacle. Your whole energy was going to get something and somebody blocked the energy. You could not get what you wanted.

Psychology Of Anger

Now this frustrated energy becomes anger…anger against the person who has destroyed the possibility of fulfilling your desire.

You cannot prevent anger because anger is a by-product, but you can do something else so that the by-product does not happen at all.

In life, remember one thing: never desire anything so intensely as if it is a question of life and death. Be a little playful.

I am not saying, don’t desire — because that will become a repression in you. I am saying, desire but let your desire be playful. If you can get it, good. If you cannot get it, perhaps it was not the right time; we will see next time. Learn something of the art of the player.

We become so identified with the desire, then when it is blocked or prevented our own energy becomes fire; it burns you. And in that state of almost insanity you can do anything, for which you are going to repent. It can create a series of events that your whole life may get entangled with. Because of this, for thousands of years, they have been saying, “Become desireless.” Now that is asking something inhuman. Even the people who have said, “Become desireless” have also given you a motive, a desire: if you become desireless you will attain to the ultimate freedom of moksha, nirvana. That too is a desire.

You can repress desire for some bigger desire, and you may even forget that you are still the same person. You have only changed the target. Certainly, there are not many people who are trying to get moksha, so you will not have any great competition. In fact, people will be very happy that you have started going towards moksha — one competitor less in life. But as far as you are concerned nothing has changed. And if anything can be created which disturbs your desire for moksha, again the anger will flare up. And this time it will be far bigger, because now the desire is far bigger. Anger is always proportionate to desire.

I have heard….

There were three monasteries, Christian monasteries, very close together in the forest. One day three monks met at the crossroads. They were coming from the villages back to their monasteries; each belonged to a different monastery. They were tired. They sat down under the trees and started talking about something to pass the time.

One man said, “One thing you will have to accept is that as far as scholarship is concerned, learning is concerned, our monastery is the best.”

The other monk said, “I agree, it is true. Your people are far more scholarly, but as far as austerities are concerned, discipline is concerned, spiritual training is concerned, you don’t come anywhere near to our monastery. And remember, scholarship will not be able to help you realize the truth. It is only spiritual discipline, and we are the best as far as spiritual discipline is concerned.”

The third monk said, “You are both right. The first monastery is best in learning, scholarship. The second monastery is best in spiritual discipline, austerities, fasting. But as far as humbleness, egolessness is concerned, we are the tops.” Humbleness, egolessness…but the man seemed to be absolutely unaware of what he was saying: “As far as humbleness, egolessness is concerned, we are the tops.”

Even humbleness can become an ego trip. Egolessness can become an ego trip. One has to be very aware. You should not try to stop anger. You should not, in any way, keep the anger controlled, otherwise it will burn you, it will destroy you. What I am saying is: you have to go to the roots. The root is always some desire which has been blocked, and the frustration has created the anger. Don’t take desires very seriously. Don’t take anything seriously.

It is unfortunate that no religion in the world has accepted the sense of humor as one of the basic qualities for the religious man. I want you to understand that a sense of humor, playfulness, should be the fundamental qualities. You should not take things so seriously, then anger does not arise. You can simply laugh at the whole thing. You can start laughing at yourself. You can start laughing at situations in which you would have been angry and mad.

Use playfulness, a sense of humor, laughter. It is a big world, and there are millions of people. Everybody is trying to get to something. It is very natural that sometimes people may get into each other’s ways — not that they want to, it is just the situation, it is accidental.

I have heard about one Sufi mystic, Junnaid, who every day in the evening prayer used to thank existence for its compassion, for its love, for its care.

Once it happened that for three days they were traveling and they came across villages where people were very antagonistic against Junnaid, because they thought his teachings were not exactly the teachings of Mohammed. His teaching seemed to be his own, and, “He is corrupting people.”

So from three villages they had not got any food, not even water. On the third day they were really in bad shape. His disciples were thinking, “Now let us see what happens in the prayer. How can he now say to existence, ‘You are compassionate to us; your love is there. You care about us, and we are grateful to you.’ ?”

But when the prayer time came, Junnaid prayed the same way. After the prayer the followers said, “This is too much. For three days we have suffered hunger, thirst. We are tired, we have not slept, and still you are saying to existence, ‘You are compassionate, your love towards us is great, and you take so much care that we are grateful to you.’ ”

Junnaid said, “My prayer does not depend on any condition; those things are ordinary. Whether I get food or not I don’t want to bother existence about it — such a small thing in such a big universe. If I don’t get water…even if I die, it does not matter, my prayer will remain the same. Because this vast universe…it makes no difference whether Junnaid is alive or dead.”

This is what I mean when I say, don’t take anything seriously…not even yourself. And then you will see anger simply has not happened. There is no possibility of anger. And anger is certainly one of the great leakages of your spiritual energy. If you can manage to be playful about your desires, and still be the same whether you succeed or you fail.

Just start thinking about yourself at ease…nothing special; not that you are meant to be victorious, not that you have to succeed always in every situation. This is a big world and we are small people.

Once this settles in your being then everything is acceptable. Anger disappears, and the disappearance will bring you a new surprise, because when anger disappears it leaves behind it tremendous energy of compassion, of love, of friendship.

OSHO – The Sword and the Lotus, Talk #9
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Copyright © 2010 Osho International Foundation

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28 responses to “Seriously, Lighten Up!

  1. fabulous writings

  2. Thank you for reminding me. My years at the Ranch were the best of my life. You are forever etched in my heart and my soul wherever you are. Love love forever love

  3. This is simply the best, the most wonderful and timely truths.
    Namaste

  4. THANK YOU VERY MUCH… I LEARNED SOMETHING THAT UNANSWERABLE QUESTION WITHIN ME FOR LONG TIME…

  5. This is a wonderful reading. So helpful. Thank you more than I can say. 😉

  6. its really a great article, it helped me a lot, thanks for giving good teachings, may god bless all
    paras

  7. Mind blowing!!
    I Love U Osho.

    • How wonderful is this. In this day and age when all religions talk in terms of dangers and fears and consequences of uncontrolled anger and of controlling harmful states, OSHO reveals the way, without fear, without repression…..thank you so much for this……

  8. Thanks Osho its great if you train your selfe deal with your unger in this way realy we are small in this big world

  9. Itz so true…
    I needed this article today… thanks to my sis-in- law who posted it to me
    and thanks to Osho
    and my gratitude to the Supreme Lord always.

  10. Mind Blowing, I LIke it.

  11. We can not make religions to accept playfulness, a sense of humor, laughter as a basic qualities but individually we can take it.

    It is something beyond all religions..
    Lets be playful and start loving humor.. 🙂
    Loved it totally.. I am laughing 🙂

  12. it is fabulous . but i dont agree wid this line.

    “It is unfortunate that no religion in the world has accepted the sense of humor as one of the basic qualities for the religious man.”

    Islam is the religion which has accepted the sense of humor as one of the basic qualities for the religious man.

    • Actually, I agree with you…but only partially….. I think the line was quite possibly written in such a way that people interpret religion as such….including religious people….

      In reality, ALL religions….actually recognise that laughter and playfulness is essential to all….. 🙂

  13. Sis, could you develop?

  14. Great………. i think it is the most wonderful and truly written words on “ANGER”
    Thank U

  15. maria teresa Gomez Horta

    I just would have like that some one who I cared for had red it some days ago!
    What a pitty !

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  18. real truth, soul releaser and life guide. Don´t take nothing too serious and don´t force things. Cooperate.

  19. Bobby Thakur Shandilya

    howz beautiful! love u mystery man….

  20. Bobby Thakur Shandilya

    beautiful!

  21. pure truth!!!!!!!!!

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